Housing Issues

GOSH advise us,Daisy is at the same amount of risk from infection as she was from start. Daisy is still on her daily Iron,Pain killer and Flucloxicillian 2x per day. Personally I think the risk isn't as high,so I've relaxed on the infection control,just a little!.. A little calming on cleaning was well in need, my hands were starting to bleed they were so dry!.We Just want to get though this winter,without a big scary bug heading our way. Its going to be hard with my other 2 kids mixing with other kids,and them school germs.  Not to mention how cold its been.
 More great news NOT the local council have said NO, in a rather rude way too,, about my application for home adaptions. hur?? as if! I had at least 6 voluntary letters supporting my case from various Professionals at Hospitals,even Specialist at GOSH.
  THE FAMILY ~ I've got a 3 bedroom council house Kyron(male) 11years old - 1st bedroom. Izzy(fem) 6years old - 2nd room, and Mark and I (Daisy 9months) in the 3rd room. We have been here since the end of 2008, when we were forced to leave our house due to the Social Services forcing me and kids to more, if we didn't they said the kids would be taken away,due to domestic violence. We were granted homeless and left all our friends,belongings,dogs,family pets,schools,everything behind. My son Kyron was diagnosed with ADHD in 2006,and Izzy has speech and language Therapy, they both find school hard,partly due to disruption,time of,and my lack of attention due to moving etc.. They both find it a struggle adapting to new surroundings. Like any kids they need stability. They both can have bad tempers (ie-hitting,biting,and smashing the odd thing!) and challenging behaviour. They didn't want a new baby,and they didn't prepare for an ill baby!. Family life was hard enough just with my first 2 little monsters! as lovely as they are......When we got the house after a year of refuge's,and car sleeping the kids finally began to have faith in there surroundings again. Then I fell pregnant,Me and Mark warmed them to the idea,until they seem more excited than us. All was good,then....Anyway , the last year has been a battle for them, they,like us didn't have a clue what was going on, I was taken in hospital 3 weeks before the Birth,Heavy bleeding. Then,for a few months I stayed in with Daisy at various hospitals including GOSH,London for 1month.The kids were bounced from house to house, Nan to Auntie,Auntie to Grandad and so on..... We had no warning that Daisy would not be well, it was a complete shock after the 'Normal' Birth. The first time the kids came to visit at GOSH, Daisy had an Apnea attack and as I put my arm on Kyron,he then said 'Its not OK Mum, I know shes going to Die' I didn't know what to say,...that's a first,i know...Sadly,I also didn't think she'd be here today, if I'm honest.
 Can I say-Thank you to all who called and visited me around this time,your friendly face's,coat hangers,fag breaks,knickers,shoes etc , uplifted my spirits,sorry you had to fly home, Mum,Chris,for once I didn't want the attention, due to these the circumstances. I look back now and I cannot thank my Aunties enough(not forgetting Frank,of course) for visiting. Mostly I want to thank My Mum and my Dad. I can truly say my Dad has become my best friend, weather he likes it or not. I cannot believe how my mum copse with the kids,school runs,party's,clubs, she just picks up where Ive left from, no ifs or buts. Amazing lady. Great tea making too.x
 Now the kids have started to settled again after Daisys Birth. Id like them to have a chance at experiencing being kids, not being homeless,having ADHD,worry about getting to school,missing class,or if We've been rushed to hospital again,or worry that there little sister is going to die. THAT'S NOT FAIR.
  The problem is Daisys health and safety. Should it be a problem,or problem solved?.
 We have been told Daisy should have her own bedroom, For obvious reasons. To prevent infection. If she is to share I would be on pins,worrying. I would have to re kit the bedroom so all sides were soft, toys were soft, I would need to be able to get access fast to her, in case the Apnea monitor went and at worse needed to resuscitate her, (general we stimulate to Heart and blow on her a few times, this seems to get her Breathing again). The nurse at GOSH wouldn't let her leave until we were taught Life Support. So calm down family. Daisy has had 6 Apnea attacks so far, that we have dealt with. What we are aware of. I don't think this is appropriate for a 6year old to witness,do you?. As soon as Daisy's walking she will wear her Helmet all day. We have to try and let her go Helmet free as much as poss, as the skin (when its there) will always be stupidly weak. Therefore a safe soft,clean environment is a must. agree??. I cant make Izzy share her room,having to change all her belongings and be punished for having a sister with her Skull,Skin missing and all the rest of it. Yet I need to promote Daises well being,letting her grow,be free,be safe,be happy,be a child..! Somewhere I can administer her medication, somewhere she can recover from future operations, somewhere she can not need her helmet,a whole room that's Daisy safe. agree??. Well the council did, when they saw the file I put together, they were swayed by the medical support letters I had gathered. Now they say No! WTF. Hang on, Daises head was leaking CSF 4moths ago,due to pressure in her head from crying in the car as its so uncomfortable, I have no childcare, rest bite, I haven't had 5mins without baby, even my mum wont have her,totally understandable-massive responsibility. The council say yer, she needs a room, we can get you a 4bed. I cant move with all this going on, I cant pack/unpack and care for Daisy.  Ive got to move, kinda find that hard, i do school run, chemist 2xweekly(that take 1hour each visit) care for Daisy,attend appointments(daily)Change dressing 3x week,administer Medication 4x daily,take observations 2x daily,cook tea(if there lucky!),and I'm suppose to pack, sterilize new house after finding 1, carpet,decorate,be mum to my other kids, not let daisy cry,in case her head leaks CSF again, keep daisy sterile,promote her healing skin by not wearing helmet, and you want me to tell my other 2 kids were moving, just the thought makes me want to commit crime. It would be rather hard with Daises lack of skull, and quite frankly not worth the risk. Pressure on Daises head could course a Hemorrhage at any time. Or CSF leak, these are Life Threatening.  The government give each council money, the council then give grants Disability Facility Grant. But as Daisy hasn't got a leg missing or a common illness, getting this funding isn't easy.



So with all this, Kyrons ADHD behavioral problems, struggling in education,and deep depression,. then Therese Izzy's food comforting (I taught her that on1!), Deafness, due to glue ear(smoking in house,ex taught her that 1!). Speech and Language Therapy. Private one to one tutoring for 10 weeks in maths at school. Id say There are settling, finally they can be kids.
 I don't think there ready for a move not after the shock we had at the Birth. The council want to do what will benefit the family best. I was advised by Doctors to apply for a grant via the local council and Social Services,A Disability  Facility Grant to home adaptions. They said no, errr hello Skull missing??? infection risk?? Heart Defect?? Risk of Main Valve exploding in head if stressed (daisy,not me!) previous traveling and crying experiences causing CSF to pour from my babies head just 4months ago, pouring for over 1month!, how high risk??? DOH!!, nothing but helmets, soft toys and operations for skull plates , tissue expansions, maybe foot operations, maybe blowing up of Heart Valves to look forward too. We can move so Daisy can have her own room, geeeee thanks. I monitor Daisy 24/7, fast action is needed if she shows signs of infection. May i add my partner, Mark, Daises Dad, paid tax for years, big amounts, never signed on, what do we pay for?? Help fund Government Housing for vulnerable  Women and children?? Help these people with moving?? help and follow there health up with outreach care after losing the lot?? information for parents whom experience Birth Defect, that are shocking on the eye, Undetected Defects until the Birth?? we pay tax for education support?? housing?? hello, family in need!!!! END OF.